Sometimes being happy can be as simple as making a decision to be happy. When we are unhappy, we tend to take it out on those closest to us: our partner and family. Why we do this is, I suspect, because we know at the end of the day that these people will still love us. Or at least our family will.
But we owe them more than that. If you take a good, hard look at your life and cannot see any real reason to be unhappy (and be honest here – sometimes we like a little pity party and like playing the victim, but what value is that really bringing to our lives in the end?) then just decide to be happy. It’s amazingly simple.
Yes, problems will come and go and you cannot always be happy but if you have had a couple of problems recently, you may find that, although these situations have been more or less resolved, you are stuck in a rut of ‘non-happiness’. Not necessarily unhappiness. Just non-happiness. It’s now a case of identifying that and then doing something about it.
Get over it. It’s within your power. And your partner and family will be so much more willing to help you when you do have a problem. And the amazing thing about happiness? It spreads.
To take it out on: if you are angry with someone or something, you treat other people badly in order to redirect that anger or frustration
Pity party: (slang) when someone just likes getting sympathy
To play the victim: (slang) to act like the world is against you and your life is horrible
Spread: to increase/reach/extend/widen/broaden/go further