Humans are complex. Put two humans together and it becomes almost too complex to understand. Therefore, relationships – involving two humans and lots of emotions and issues – can be a serious conundrum.
Take, for example, a friend of mine who has a knack of sabotaging her relationships. Not consciously of course, but simply as a defense mechanism.
You see, what she does is, as soon as she senses any kind of imperfection in the relationship she starts preparing herself for the break up. She becomes distant and defensive. Her partner in reaction to this also starts to become distant and defensive, and therefore confirms her fears.
Ultimately they break up. And we will never know whether that initial imperfection was a simple issue that could have been solved over a cup of coffee or one that really would have led to a break up.
How will you ever learn about relationships if you keep running at the first sign of trouble? Stick it out. You may be pleasantly surprised.
Conundrum: a puzzle/a mystery
A knack of: you are especially skilled at doing something
Sabotage: damage/interfere with/disrupt
Defense mechanism: a way of responding to a situation to in order to protect yourself emotionally